A challenge when communicating is to make sure that the message you’re conveying is heard the way you intended it, especially considering that your control of the recipients perception of that message is very limited.
The good thing is that there are keys to communicate more successfully, which can help you improve relationships, increase empathy for others, reduce the risk of misinterpretations, kill it in negotiations & sales meetings and so much more!
Communication is normally dependant on the engagement of the recipient. Basically, you need to break through a filter of references, prejudice, interpretations and personal experiences to really connect with the person you are communicating with. Is your message actually being received in the same context that you intended?
So how do you do that?
There’s a whole industry selling the ‘secret’ to communicating effectively… but there are some key features that keep popping up which will make all the difference next time you’re trying to get your message across to someone. Here’s some quick tips to get started.
1. Ask yourself… what is my end goal here? Is it to win? To assert my point of view? To be seen in a certain way?
Is it that I sincerely care about this other persons outcome, understanding, and their connection to my message?
You see... we know when someone isn’t committed to the conversation. Don't we?
We can usually sense when someone is forcing their opinion on us and doesn’t care about what we think. And what do we do when we sense that???
Usually we will switch off to some degree, shut down. We can feel it. We’ve all been in a situation where we can sense that this person doesn’t give a hoot about me and why did he ask me how my weekend was when he didn’t even listen to my answer?
Which leads me to number 2.
2. Active Listening!!
If you’ve built relationships based on listening and appreciating others circumstances… then you can bet they’ll be a lot more open to listening to YOUR message too. And your listening skills will give you vital information on peoples style of communication and personal behaviours.
3. Body Language
Next time you have something important to say, do you really think people will listen if you’re doing a hand stand at the same time? Maybe if you’re a yoga teacher. But other than that, it’s not giving the right visual cues that relate to the content of your message.
It’s quite amazing that we can understand each other with such clarity, without saying a single word. As a matter of fact, our primary way of communicating is non-verbal.
To become an efficient and skilled communicator, you need to understand the importance of both verbal and non-verbal communication. Be more aware of your body language this week and consider what signals you’re sending to others.
If you’d like to learn more about your own behavioural style and strengths and take your communication skills to the next level….
Then Hey…. You should take a look at my Behavioural Profiling Analysis.
I’d love to read your comments below on what specifically you’re struggling with in your day to day conversations.
Until next time…
May all your conversations be meaningful ones.
Have a sparkling day.